Skewed in any direction prevents a person from being happy. Sooner or later, we all face the fact that we need to honestly and clearly allocate our time so as not to suffer from its shortage, no matter how paradoxical it may sound.
A harmoniously built schedule, determining what is valuable and important for us, helps us to be as efficient and fulfilling as possible, to fully live all social roles, and gives a powerful impetus to development.
Entrepreneur Natalia Shmigelskaya has been in business for about 15 years and knows everything about tight schedules. How not get lost with your true desires and needs in the routine of affairs? How to find harmony in this cycle of events?
Natalia has developed seven working rules for herself, which she is ready to talk about today.
Entrepreneur Natalia Shmigelskaya has been in business for about 15 years and knows everything about tight schedules. How not to get lost with your true desires and needs in the routine of affairs? How to find harmony in this cycle of events?
Natalia has developed seven working rules for herself, which she is ready to talk about today.
- 30% – work
- 20% – time for yourself, reboot, rest
- 10% – time for development, training
- 40% – family (you need to share time with your husband and children).
Of course, borders can always move due to force majeure. But there are unshakable rules. First, family time is not the same as time with your husband. Spend some leisure time with your spouse separately from the children, because with them we “play” mom and dad, and we can only be husband and wife separately. And sacredly honor the time for yourself – this is self-development and interaction with the world. Only alone with ourselves can we know ourselves, our values, priorities, and desires.
2. You are where your thoughts “live” – follow them
Be sure to consider how much time and when you THINK about work. Even when playing with children, you can be mentally absent, and this switching of the social roles will be fake and ineffective. It is important to be able to switch off and honestly share time in order to fully relax from the routine, filled with new emotions. Believe me, sometimes it’s very helpful in the spirit of Scarlett O’Hara to think about “it” tomorrow. Life will always arrange some difficult situations, it is important not to plunge into them, but to be above them and observe. In any situation, you need to understand where our influence ends, and where it’s just life. If we have done everything in our power, why worry and think about it all the time? We live either in the future or in the past, and we often hear how quickly time flies, and it seems like everything was like yesterday. It is necessary to live with all consciousness right here, where we are, to be aware of everything we do, without thinking and deciding other situations. This day will no longer be. When you need to find the answer, he will come. In a pure mind, it will definitely be correct and clear.
3. Delegate your work instead of giving personal time to work
In order not to carry work home and not overload yourself and your family with your schedule, you need to delegate the tasks that are possible without your participation as much as possible. When the project is launched, I devote only 15% of my time to work and give subordinates the opportunity to take responsibility and feel it. Of course, sometimes force majeure requires 100% inclusion, but this is only an exception. There are periods when work brings maximum pleasure and you want not to leave this process. At this moment, you are rushing with all your might, this is very cool, let it be for some period, but then you need to balance everything and get it in other sectors of life, otherwise, there may be a failure. In relatively calm periods, you need to harmonize your life so that later you don’t look back and regret missed conversations and opportunities lost in the bustle of work.
4. Rituals and rules are the best organizers
Each of us has our own rules in life. Enlist their support – let your rules of conduct help you get the most out of life. If you want to attract something useful into your life, some activities or hobbies, plan for days, or weeks, what you always do, and the rest can be built around that. It is especially important to do what fills you. For example, for me the most emotional charge is galloping a horse through an autumn or spring forest, I always plan and build my schedule before and after that.
5. Manage your attitude so that they don’t lead you.
If you wake up and you have no problems, then you are dead (Adizes). There will always be difficulties, however, a person suffers the most when he does not agree with something in his life. And if you take all situations as training and observe them, then, even having problems, you can remain in harmony. We develop and grow not in comfort, it can be perceived as a trip to the gym – with each workout, the dumbbells will be heavier and the body stronger. If a situation has arisen in our life, then we have the strength to cope with it. The main thing is not to plunge into it, but to be above it and know that someday it will end, everything is temporary in our world. When the problem is solved, we become stronger and wiser.
6. Meditation and nature: silence is harmony
Meditation is very important for inner harmony. The meditation process is different for everyone. Someone contemplatively admires nature. Someone, in order to unload their head as much as possible, needs to go to a yoga studio and work with a trainer. But there is a single rule for everyone: the mind must be stopped from time to time, and the flow of thoughts should not control you. The mind is constantly chirping, and it takes a lot of energy. Try to manage this flow, stop it – and you will see how much energy and necessary insights will appear.
It is often heard that there is no time to be in nature, but this is a false belief. In the end, nature will save you time, giving you a powerful boost of strength and inspiration. Nothing energizes me like watching sunrise or sunset. All this is very important for us, but why do we live then? For routine in pursuit of spending money on something unnecessary? Missing the most important and truly valuable thing in our life – ourselves.
Walk in the park, in the forest, on the lake, or just in the evening in silence with candles and music. Of course, at first, there will be a desire to grab the phone and drown in social networks or turn on the TV, but the main thing is to overcome this and find silence in ourselves, our happiness is hidden there.
7. Take responsibility for your life
We ourselves are responsible for our lives. It is up to us to choose whether we want to be happy and make our loved ones happy, or rush into the funnel of constant events that we ourselves make meaningful, devaluing what is really important to us. Anxiety is the only thing that stands between ordinary everyday life and true happiness. And we have the tools to cope with this and live in complete harmony with ourselves. After all, if we are happy, we make happy the people around us, and our loved ones.
