Strong, courageous, self-confident … But it turns out that fears are also inherent in men. Having dealt with them, you and your loved one will become closer. What are men afraid of?
The problem is that men prefer to hush up or deny their fears: how can they, courageous and fearless, be afraid of something?! But truly harmonious relationships require frankness and mutual support. Psychologists identify the 7 most common male fears. We take note!
“I’m a loser”
Men are more likely than women to look back and ask questions: what have I achieved in life? What will I leave as a legacy for my children? How will my friends and colleagues remember me? Did I take a wrong turn at an important intersection? When a man realizes that he is living an incomplete life, it drains his battery twice as fast.
Advice. If your loved one suffers from a loser complex, make it clear that you chose him not because you could not find someone more successful for yourself, but because you see the potential and believe that one day he will succeed
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“I was fired”
At the genetic level, men have the idea that they are the breadwinners of the family. Once upon a time, in order to fill up a mammoth and provide food for the entire tribe for long days, brute physical strength was needed. Today, financial viability and stable cash receipts have become such a “force”. Financial stability and significant social status support male authority, so problems at work or an economic crisis can cause them to panic and bring them to have a nervous breakdown.
Advice. Do not reproach the chosen one with low earnings or the loss of a job. A man should know that he has a reliable rear: this will inspire him to new achievements. And in no case do not compare his achievements with the achievements of a neighbor or a friend’s husband: this will not inspire your chosen one to move mountains and achieve more but will encourage him to look for a woman who loves him, not his earnings.
“I don’t earn much”
In Fight Club, self-destruction guru Tyler Durden teaches white-collar workers: “You are not your job, not your money in the bank, not your car, not your wallet.” However, in real life, few people adhere to such a philosophy, because money is always a big problem for a man.
He does not just evaluate himself through the prism of material income. A man needs money to provide for all the needs of the family, security, a flexible lifestyle, raising social status, and confidence in the future.
Advice. Let a man know that you are proud of him, no matter how much he earns. Tell me in passing about some friend who has a man who sits at home and watches TV series from morning to evening, while she, poor thing, goes to work and brings home bags of food. Make it clear that you appreciate a man for being different and trying to do something – even if it doesn’t always work out for the best.
“I’m bad in bed”
Even a one-time misfire in bed alarms a man and he begins to panic analyze what is wrong with him? Getting old, sick, what to do, who is to blame?! And panic in such a delicate matter only hurts. Perhaps hard work, lack of sleep, chronic fatigue are to blame. But if every second attempt ends in failure, action must be taken. And not to him alone, but to you together.
Advice. Never be ironic about the sexual possibilities of your loved one! Tactfully convince your loved one to undergo an examination by a specialist. Express, for example, your concern with his tired look. Difficulties with erection can signal the presence of prostatitis, atherosclerosis, coronary heart disease, diabetes…
“I’m going to be a dad”
84% of polled Ukrainians are afraid of the unplanned pregnancy of their partner. Many men think that with the advent of an ever-crying offspring, youth is gone forever, and ahead is only a bunch of expenses, sleepless nights, fatigue, and irritation. To be honest, in some ways they are right …
Advice. If your chosen one bypasses the playgrounds on the tenth road, and a child’s squeal makes him frown painfully, it is unlikely that he will shower you with flowers if you tell him about your pregnancy. But if he is happy to talk about the tricks of his young nephews and is even ready to sit with them for an hour or two, you can consider him as a potential dad for your children. And to create an attractive image of a family with children in him, visit happy families with children more often, watch films together that illustrates the fact that fatherhood is not a tragedy.
“I must marry”
For many men, the family is associated with the loss of freedom, the difficulties of everyday life, responsibility for children, and many other problems. Yes, and this hype itself with rings, a white dress, a tight tie, a bunch of guests and a lot of money, it is not clear what was spent on … What if another betrayal, divorce, division of property?
Advice. Being assertive will only scare away your loved one. Stock up on patience. At the same time, probe the soil: maybe, if you do without all this wedding tinsel and hassle, but just go and sign at the registry office, your beloved will agree? But if a man claims that he is a “ideological” bachelor, maybe you need another man?
“She cheated on me”
Even the thought of betraying a beloved woman can cause a man, not just jealousy, but anger and aggression. Behind them is a feeling of despair and resentment towards the chosen one.
Advice. Say more often that he is the one and only, the best lover in your life, husband and in general … If there was a fact of betrayal, then think a hundred times whether it is worth admitting it. Psychologists warn: 70% of men do not forgive cheating.
