The more you know about your sexual desire, the more likely it is that your sex life will always remain deliciously enjoyable and quite varied.
Sadly, for some, the topic of sexuality and libido is still almost taboo. We sometimes get upset and almost angry with ourselves if we don’t have an orgasm or don’t get turned on “on command”. Forgetting completely that our body is not only adapted for receiving pleasure but also conceals the abyss of the unexplored.
Agree, it is unfair to expect from a partner that he will instinctively feel how to please you. Psychologists say you can directly take and tell the words what you want. But for some reason, they say much less about how to find out what a woman wants.
So catch 8 important facts about your sexuality and libido. The more we know about ourselves, the easier we can love and understand ourselves.
1. In women, sexual desire is lower by nature.
It really is. You can be more or less “thirsty” at different times in your life, but the average figures are that women want sex less than about 30%.
2. Maternal instinct kills sexual desire.
Women who are overly focused on motherhood can ruin their sex life with a partner without any malicious intent. It is so conceived by nature: if you think only about the child and devote all your time to him, the body is rebuilt, including hormonally, inhibiting libido.
3. Not everyone has a “sexual peak” at 40.
Some ladies are almost looking forward to the very promised peak of sexual desires and emancipation, which sexologists promise them closer to 40 years. However, in reality, it may not come – everything is very individual. So make the most of every age.
4. Your libido is affected by…everything.
A woman is such a complex multifaceted being, for which it is generally impossible to take into account all the factors of influence. Globally, these are age, season, phase of the cycle, and the presence of stress. Optional – anything from a new kitchen sink to a lip gloss bought today. Humble yourself: you are the same open book woman. On quantum physics, in Chinese. And this is normal.
5. Men in sex are more goal-oriented.
Excessive male haste in bed is often interpreted by a woman as inattention to a partner. In fact, everything is somewhat deeper: the goal is more important for a man. For a woman, in general, the way to achieve it is much more valuable.
6. Sex is needed by a woman and a man for different purposes.
Have you ever wondered how your man can want sex after a tiring day when you yourself want only one thing – to merge in ecstasy with a pillow? The focus is simple. Scientists say: for a man, sex is a de-stressor. For a woman, a way to get pleasure when they are relaxed and feel good.
By the way, another important point: for men, sex is a way to create intimacy in a couple. For ladies, this is a way to express intimacy. That is why sometimes girls may prefer hugs or heart-to-heart talk to sex, not finding understanding from their partner.
7. Your libido will change from year to year.
Even if menopause is still a long way off, almost all women experience a change in their sex drive. Foreplay usually becomes more important with age, in addition, awareness comes to the fore – a woman pays more attention to her own desire and its strength.
8. There is no pose that works for all women.
You must have read about sex positions in which the orgasm will be brighter / longer / will certainly be. The bad news: they don’t work for everyone. The good news is that “your” pose definitely exists.
According to statistics from sexologists, men prefer a woman to be on top. And women prefer just the opposite – to be from below. Some need to relax completely to achieve orgasm, others need to control every movement.
Depending on your habits and needs, it will be easy to find the best poses – it is only important to experiment.
