It is not appropriate for a woman in our society to want sex. You can want to get married, have children, have serious relationships, romance, and love, but to say: “I only need sex” is taboo for a woman.
Admitting that you slept with a man in order to get pregnant from him is easier than admitting that you had sex just for the sake of sex. Hence all this talk is it possible to have sex on the first date or whole theories about at what stage of the relationship it is appropriate to go into bed so that you are not considered easily accessible. And to say that you want sex without a relationship is like stamping yourself with the stigma of “slut”.
It is forever inscribed in the criteria of a “decent woman”: to be restrained, not to show initiative in sex, to “pickle”, like cucumbers, male expectations and, even reaching the bed, moan quietly in it and in no case demonstrate all your sexual appetites and addictions immediately, and be sure to associate sex with love and relationships. Without love and without relationships, only men can have sex in our country. But we do not become frigid from social restrictions. We do not stop wanting men, only we have to hide it.
Women, just like men, can want sex and not want a relationship.
In sex without commitment, everything is simple – she does not need to pretend to be touchy. He does not need to “nourish” at least three ritual dates. It does not have those awkward moments when, even after three dates, she or he invites the other to visit, both understand that this invitation has a sexual connotation, but they are forced to drink tea and talk for a long time, maintaining some kind of ceremonial of imaginary decency.
In sex without commitment, time spent on useless tea can be used for classy foreplay
When everything is simple, you can immediately tell your partner what you want, what caresses or what positions, you don’t need to painfully think whether a blowjob is appropriate during the first sex or everything that is beyond the missionary position, it’s better to save it for a longer acquaintance, for this sacred mountain, what is called “relationships”.
In sex without commitment, both are free not only in bed but also in life. Freedom is not about sleeping with just anyone, freedom is about honestly agreeing on when, how, where, and why to meet. She didn’t have to think about whether it was proper to write to him first. He does not need to accept her resentment when he is too busy to meet. Everyone can write, and everyone can agree and refuse.
Sex without obligations does not exclude mutual respect, tolerance, and warmth of human relations. Vice versa. If all this is not there, then sex is unlikely to be good.
Attraction is a complex component that consists not only of bodily attraction, but also of common interests, views, and a similar sense of humor. When it’s fun to laugh with a person, it’s interesting to communicate, it’s nice to do something, sex will almost certainly turn out to be this pleasant “something”
Only he is not burdened by a showdown, who should wash the dishes, whose mother should be the first to congratulate on the New Year, or what to spend the general savings on.
Of course, in sex without commitment, you can become attached and fall in love. You can begin to want from a partner the very obligations that were initially excluded. And here it’s how lucky – it’s not a fact that you will coincide in the desire for rapprochement. But it seems to me that the honesty that was between you from the very beginning will help to avoid that falsehood and meaninglessness, and most importantly, broken hopes when she wants a relationship, and he wants sex, but in order to get it, he pretends that he also wants relations. And she gives herself to him, having honestly endured the abstinence of three dates, and then discovers that he has disappeared because he has already received everything.
We live one life, there are no “delete”, “rewind” or “pause” buttons in it. People will always find something to criticize for. This does not even need such a big reason as sex without commitment
It is enough just to go out into the street, as they will immediately tell you that you went out the wrong way, in the wrong place, and in the wrong place. So is it necessary to deny yourself sex if it is impossible to satisfy the desires of everyone? Maybe it’s better to satisfy yours?
