The question is not how to live after sex, and what to do in life, it is narrower but no less controversial and interesting. Everyone has their preferences, you say, and there can be no universal truth in such things. But love science, like any other, has an ancient methodological basis and texts, the study of which can bring us closer to understanding harmonious forms of behavior. After all, we cannot boast that everything completely satisfies us in our sex life? Which means there is a mistake somewhere.
People pay a lot of attention to seduction, games, foreplay, various oral sex techniques, and many other aspects of sexual union. But for some reason, almost everyone misses the moment of completion. If women, due to their characteristics, still somehow understand that after having sex they want to lie down a little together and not jump off the sexual wave, then with men the situation is completely different. A rare man wants to slowly come out of an act of love.
What is the end and what is the beginning?
For many people, the end of sex is an orgasm. They reach their finish line and start running again, whether it’s taking a shower and then eating, returning to their business, or sleeping. Some women are immediately offended and begin to make a scandal of their beloveds. Others resignedly, but reproachfully look after. Some pretend that they are indifferent to such an intention of a man. And then there are those who themselves do not understand what they want and therefore do not react to such attacks in any way.
But if you turn to the Kama Sutra, one of the most authoritative texts about love, or to your deepest feelings and views, you can be sure that everything needs to be done differently. Indeed, such treatment of each other does not lead to anything good, on the contrary, insults, even unconscious ones, accumulate and spoil your relationship, take away your passion for each other and make it impossible to continue the relationship.
This can be compared to a flower that is carefully watered, it is placed on the windowsill in the sun, fertilized, admired, but as soon as it blooms, it is immediately plucked, leaving an empty stem in a pot.
The structure of the sex
In sex, people tune in, this happens due to foreplay. Foreplay should be equal, both of you should give each other the same amount of petting. You will do it in different ways, he is masculine, you are feminine, and thus, by accepting each other’s deepest manifestations, you exchange different components of your personalities. This is why sex is valuable.
When you are already in the process of sex, you act in the same rhythm and reach orgasm together. But since the state that you achieve together cannot be achieved one at a time, then with a sharp end, one of you can simply “knock out” yourself. Most often, it is men who turn on their side and fall asleep, but some women do this too, causing no less trauma to their beloved.
The Kama Sutra says that after sex you do not need to immediately separate, lovers, are advised to stay with each other for some more time. And then, gently go out and lie in an embrace. This is exactly the moment when you can and should show tenderness to each other. If you want to wash the body, do it together, you can wash each other, there is no need to talk. This process should be akin to meditation where you continue to exchange your energies and thank each other.
Of course, if a man is used to it and thinks he “loves” differently, it can be difficult to persuade him to try it. But if a person loves you, and you kindly ask, explaining how important it is for you, he will definitely agree. If he perceives this topic painfully and says that this is nonsense, perhaps he has some problems with intimacy, which only he himself can solve. You will need to think about whether this is the attitude you want for yourself, and whether you can always be so detached from the person you love.
